Light Skin Is The Right Skin… Right?

Fresh on the heels of his new album, To Pimp A Butterfly, Kendrick Lamar has sparked a new debate, unintentionally, about colorism.

It seems as though Kendrick is engaged to his long time girlfriend, who is fair skinned. Now, the issue is not her complexion, per se, but the fact that Kendrick often raps about darker skinned women and loving women of a darker complexion.

Here’s my take on it. Colorism is real. I should know, I fall into that category of people who practice it. Do I believe that light skin is the right skin? No. Do I believe dark skinned women aren’t as beautiful?  Hell no. What I do believe is that generations upon generations have passed down these ideals and assimilation tactics. It is so far gone that we now hate our own.

I don’t need to hate on my light skinned sister  just because she café au lait skin and light eyes. That don’t make her no better than me. I also don’t need to belittle my dark skinned sister by giving her half assed compliments like,  “you’re pretty for dark girl.”

I feel no shame in saying that I have a preference. Though I don’t want children, I cannot stop the will of God. If he sees fit to impregnate me, past my many forms of birth control, I want a child I can relate to. I grew up with a dark skinned sister and a light skinned cousin, and me,  myself, well I’m a pretty fine brown with cinnamon highlights.

I listened to my family call each other darkie and porcelana, which is a skin bleaching cream. I don’t know what it’s like to be light skinned nor dark,  nor can I predict that by me only dating redbones that my child will come out closer to my complexion than his.

Just for the record, I don’t only date light men. I let a few sexy darker skinned men take me down. I’m not saying I’m an EEO, but what I am saying is that we all have a preference, whether it’s light skin, dark skin, tall, short, slim or thick.

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You’re not a real man if you’re proud of having a boss!

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This morning on The Breakfast Club, Damon Dash, former mogul of Roc-A-Fella records stopped by to promote his new movie, but all he did was put his foot in his mouth, but let him tell it, he was dropping knowledge.

In the interview, Dame was EXTREMELY disrespectful not only to the platform of The Breakfast Club, by saying that he doesn’t listen to the show,  for why?  I have a problem with Dame coming on the show, saying that the show doesn’t provide him anything in terms of content but yet he wants to use that same show to promote his new project. I don’t care who approached whom first about doing an interview, the fact is Dame said yes.

He insults Charlamange, by calling him Chatty Patty and saying that real men don’t indulge in gossip and all he does is disseminate the information his boss wants him to.

Though the worst insult, in my opinion, was when said that real men don’t have bosses, they own their own and no man should be proud to say they have a boss. Sounds bad right? Well Mr. Dash took it a step further as DJ Envy challenged that line of thinking. Envy said that he’s working hard for his children, providing for them so that he can open other doors for his children that he didn’t have growing up. Dame told him that he should not be proud that his son sees him working for someone else.

Damon Dash. …please take yo hood movie making, wack ass, dumb sounding ass, hypocritical ass, wanna be deep ass TO THE LEFT! !

You say your son owns a restaurant. Accordingly to your logic, there should be no waiters, washers, or bussers because they shouldn’t have a boss, right?  I mean, seriously, if people just stopped to think about the words that come out of their mouth. Not everyone has an entrepreneurial spirit, nor should some. Do you know how many shall businesses FAIL each year because people want to be their own boss but don’t have the knowledge and ability to run a business?

Damon Dash has single-handedly respected the middle class, the working class, and everybody with a job. So can we include the President since his boss is technically The Senate? Or Mark Zuckerberg since his boss is the Public and share holders?

I really need a Kanye soundbite right now,  “You ain’t got the answers Dame. ”

I ain’t buying a damn thing that Damon Dash does, produces, inspires, creates, partners with. ..nothing. Cause he don’t need people,  we should all be working for ourselves.

In the words of Charlemagne the God, Damon Dash, we need you to shut the fuck up, forever.

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Say ‘Ye, Say ‘Ye…

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Oh Kanye, where do I begin?

First of all, I don’t understand the way Kanye stans so hard for Beyonce. I mean, does nobody find it weird that Kanye stands up for Beyoncé more than Beyoncé stands up for herself?  We all know that Beyoncé has mastered the art of silence. She says nothing so she can make major moves like dropping  surprise albums.

If Beyoncé doesn’t require a mouthpiece, why does Kanye feel the need to volunteer such services? 
AND WHY IN GOD’S NAME DOES HE BELIEVE EVERYTHING BEYONCÉ PUTS OUT IS LIQUID GOLD? ??

I enjoy a little Beyoncé here and there, but she ain’t making lifetime classics. Let’s be real, some of her shit is just wack as fuck. 7/11? The song makes no sense whatsoever. It’s a trash ass song over a super dope beat. I literally scold myself for singing it,  but I can’t help it! It’s so damn catchy.

That’s the problem though. Beyonce went from being a woman with legitimate talent to. ..a gimmick.

Maybe if we re-evaluate this Kanye thing we’d come up with this…Kanye doesn’t believe that Beyoncé is the best artist since Prince and the Revolution, he’s trying to lure us away from truth, in that he doesn’t want us to see that Beyoncé is losing some ground here to real artists. Jhene Aiko, Goapele, India Arie…women who don’t require a gimmick or a catch, or …a Kanye, for that matter. They are artists bearing real talent.

I see you, Kanye, but you can’t fool me. When Beyoncé began calling women bitches and referring to herself as one, co-signing her husband calling her a bitch,  I knew the battle was lost.

The gimmick is real and it seems to be that Kanye is just trying to divert my attention from what I clearly see in front of me. 

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Say ‘Ye, Say ‘Ye…

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Oh Kanye, where do I begin?

First of all, I don’t understand the way Kanye stans so hard for Beyonce. I mean, does nobody find it weird that Kanye stands up for Beyoncé more than Beyoncé stands up for herself?  We all know that Beyoncé has mastered the art of silence. She says nothing so she can make major moves like dropping  surprise albums.

If Beyoncé doesn’t require a mouthpiece, why does Kanye feel the need to volunteer such services? 
AND WHY IN GOD’S NAME DOES HE BELIEVE EVERYTHING BEYONCÉ PUTS OUT IS LIQUID GOLD? ??

I enjoy a little Beyoncé here and there, but she ain’t making lifetime classics. Let’s be real, some of her shit is just wack as fuck. 7/11? The song makes no sense whatsoever. It’s a trash ass song over a super dope beat. I literally scold myself for singing it,  but I can’t help it! It’s so damn catchy.

That’s the problem though. Beyonce went from being a woman with legitimate talent to. ..a gimmick.

Maybe if we re-evaluate this Kanye thing we’d come up with this…Kanye doesn’t believe that Beyoncé is the best artist since Prince and the Revolution, he’s trying to lure us away from truth, in that he doesn’t want us to see that Beyoncé is losing some ground here to real artists. Jhene Aiko, Goapele, India Arie…women who don’t require a gimmick or a catch, or …a Kanye, for that matter. They are artists bearing real talent.

I see you, Kanye, but you can’t fool me. When Beyoncé began calling women bitches and referring to herself as one, co-signing her husband calling her a bitch,  I knew the battle was lost.

The gimmick is real and it seems to be that Kanye is just trying to divert my attention from what I clearly see in front of me. 

I… Like Taylor Swift Now And I Feel Confused About It

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I thought it was all over when I saw Taylor Swift dancing to the song “Cruise” at the CMT Awards in 2013. As Florida Georgia Line performed their huge hit, some attendee on the opposite side of the venue filmed Taylor dancing for the entire performance and uploaded it to YouTube. The dancing was so uncomfortable that I actually believe it was the first time that I literally could not even.

I sat there with my hand over my mouth in disbelief. Watching her reminded me of myself at every middle school dance – dancing alone, looking awkward, and just being overall cringeworthy. It’s not as if my dancing has improved since then, it’s just that I’m now aware of how awkward I look when I attempt to move rhythmically, so I’ve refrained from doing it unless I’ve ingested a bag of wine.

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Bad Bitches/Real Niggas

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Maybe it’s me, or maybe it isn’t, but I don’t ever want to be identified as A Bad Bitch.

I think way too highly of myself to degrade my own image by referring to myself as any kind of bitch. Not bad, loyal, bottom, ride or die or any other adjective. I don’t care how it’s phrased or who’s phrasing it. My best friend better NEVER call me no kind of bitch and my man will quickly become my ex if he ever fixed his mouth to address me in such a fashion.

I have ZERO respect for girls who proudly proclaim their “bad bitch” status. If you’re walking around calling yourself a bitch, then there should be no offense taken when ANYBODY calls you a bitch. Because…heeeeyyyy *snaps fingers* you’re a bad bitch right?

And please, miss me with the argument that the sting and stigma is lessened because you’re using it so that others can’t use it against you. All you’re really doing is adding to the plight of the black culture.

I’m the first to admit that dating has become one of the hardest things in the world these days. That is, unless you’re under 35 and want a “real nigga.” I love me a black man. My personal preference is redbone with light brown eyes, but I’m an equal opportunity employer when it comes to black men. With that being said, I want a man, not a real nigga.

When a guy approaches me and wants to converse, if anywhere in his spiel he inserts the phrase real nigga, I’m instantly offended. Just to point out, I live in New Orleans so I come across “real niggas” everyday. My first question is always, what the hell is a real nigga? What is the desired criteria and qualifications? Secondly, why would I want a man that refers to himself as a real nigga? What happened to just being a real man? What is this proclamation of nigga-ness that these dudes feel the need to express daily, across varying mediums?

Perhaps bad bitches want real niggas and vice versa. People…rap music is a form of entertainment not necessarily a direct reflection of the culture. Stop the foolishness.

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Long hair don’t care

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I’m going to preface this post with a disclaimer that this is a natural hair rant. If you’re cool with that. ..carry on.

I’m so sick and tired of seeing and watching natural women claim to have waist and bra strap length hair.
No,  I’m not hating, and no, I’m not envious,  what I am is confused. Is like whomever or whatever group began this ritual, shot, killed AND maimed.

Let me tell you what my problem is exactly. I, a natural woman, returned natural because I wanted a better quality of hair. I wanted the hair of my early teens back. It was not about having Pocahontas length or following the trend. I did it for me.

Now that natural hair has become trendy, even in the media,  I  see these t shirts that are rulers that allow naturals to track their length retention. To bite Charlamange Tha God, this is a great concept that’s been poorly executed.

Baby,  you do NOT have waist length hair,  if your measuring from YOUR FUCKING NAPE! Of course the hair closet to the top of your neck is going to be the longest. Why not measure the sides, or the top?  Why,  because then you would not have waist length hair. It would be more like shoulder length, or armpit length.

My point is,  I don’t get it. I don’t see how it makes sense to only measure your hair from the nape and then claim that length. I feel like in order to have waist length, mid back,  bra strap,  etc,  ALL the hair needs to fall to that point not just a tiny fraction of the hair.

But you know what,  y’all just go right on ahead and keep claiming these lengths. I see that being natural is not a journey for you of pride and self acceptance but of reaching certain lengths and titles.